Finding Your Focus in Life and Work – Part 1
Using the Power of Reflection
In sales, "Let me reflect on that, and I’ll let you know" often means "no." But when it comes to personal growth, it means "there’s a lesson here, and I need to find it." Whether we feel stuck or need clarity, taking time to reflect on our experiences can help us find our focus and regain direction.
A pivotal lesson that changed the course of my life came during one such moment of reflection. It happened unexpectedly when I attended a course designed to help people discover their purpose—the "sweet spot" where life becomes exciting and meaningful. That discovery dramatically shifted my life’s direction.
"Follow effective action with quiet reflection. From the quiet reflection will come even more effective action." ~ Peter Drucker
Throughout history, people have turned to reflection in times of uncertainty. Julius Caesar once wrote, "Experience is the teacher of all things." However, author Oscar Wilde counters this, saying, "Experience is the name everyone gives to their mistakes." Both perspectives have wisdom. The key is not just having experiences but evaluating them, as John C. Maxwell says: "Experience isn’t the best teacher; evaluated experience is."
"Experience isn’t the best teacher; evaluated experience is." ~ John C. Maxwell
Whether you feel disconnected from your "why" or need guidance, reflection is one of the most effective tools to help you align with your purpose. I’ve developed a method I call the "Best Year Ever" exercise, but the truth is, you can do this at any time of year. The aim is to gain clarity, refocus your energy and move forward with purpose, regardless of the calendar.
It includes 4 steps as set out below. I recommend having a notepad or note-taking app handy to capture thoughts.
Step 1: Highlights, Successes & Achievements
Begin by reflecting on the highlights, successes, and achievements of the year. What went well? What moments filled you with pride? It’s easy to overlook the positive experiences we’ve had, so writing them down now helps preserve them for the future.
Step 2: Low Points, Failures & Disappointments
Next, consider the year’s low points, failures and disappointments. This isn't about dwelling on the negatives but rather understanding the lessons they offer. Evaluated experience, as Maxwell reminds us, is the best teacher.
Step 3: Saboteurs, Struggles & Self-Limiting Beliefs
Identify the “glass ceilings”, mental barriers or limiting beliefs that may have held you back. These are the things that sabotage your progress and prevent you from experiencing all you can achieve. Acknowledging and addressing them is key to moving forward at any time in life.
Step 4: Six Hats & Six Outcomes
Now, list the different roles or "hats" you wear in life. My six hats include Personal, Husband, Father, Grandfather and a couple of business-related hats too. For each role, identify six outcomes you want to achieve moving forward. While this exercise can give you a total of 36 outcomes, the goal is to prioritise the top six that matter most in your next steps.
I’ve done this exercise for several years, and the clarity it brings to my focus for the year ahead has been beneficial. As the saying goes, "Put the big rocks in first" to ensure you keep the main thing the main thing.
No matter when you start, this kind of reflection is a powerful way to find your focus and create your "Best Year Ever."
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Next Steps
Make the time to perform the 4-step exercise and find your focus
To help you focus your leadership, I can tailor an executive coaching programme for you.
To focus your team on desired outcomes, consider a facilitated workshop
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Attributions
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